đ This fact may be outdated
This statistic references 'personal ads' which were primarily newspaper classifieds popular in the 1990s and early 2000s. While the 35% figure appears in various online discussions, no credible original source or study can be found. Modern research shows different percentages: recent surveys indicate 11-18% of married adults have used dating apps/sites, though one Tinder survey claimed 65% of users were in relationships. The medium (newspaper personal ads) and the specific statistic are both outdated.
Thrity-five percent of the people who use personal ads for dating are already married.
Were 35% of Personal Ads Users Already Married?
Before swiping right became a thing, there was the awkward art of the newspaper personal ad. You'd pay $5 for 15 words, cross your fingers, and wait for a manila envelope stuffed with responses to arrive at your P.O. Box. But here's the twist that made this already questionable dating method even messier: roughly 35% of people placing these ads were already married.
This statistic from the 1990s personal ads era reveals something uncomfortable about human nature that predates the digital age. The anonymity of a classified adâburied in the back pages of alternative weeklies or mainstream newspapersâgave married people a way to shop for extramarital connections with minimal risk of discovery.
The Golden Age of Newspaper Romance
Personal ads peaked in the '90s, filling page after page of publications ranging from alt-weeklies to highbrow magazines like The New York Review of Books. For $10, you got a P.O. Box where interested parties could send letters and photos. Every Wednesday, the publication would mail you responses in a manila envelopeâlike a sad, analog version of checking your Tinder matches.
By the late 1990s, placing a personal ad had shed its desperate reputation and become relatively acceptable. The method offered something crucial for married seekers: plausible deniability. Your spouse wasn't going to stumble across your profile the way they might on a dating app today.
From Classifieds to Craigslist to Catastrophe
The personal ad industry withered in the 2000s as Craigslist and Match.com (launched in 1995) ushered in online dating. The transition didn't eliminate married usersâit just moved them to new platforms with even better anonymity.
Modern data tells a complicated story:
- 16% of married adults report having used dating sites or apps
- Among married adults under 40, that number jumps to 18% for men and 6% for women
- One survey of Tinder users found 65% were already in relationships or married
- Nearly 40% of married young adults on dating apps claim they're just looking for friends
Why the Rings Don't Stop the Swipes
The reasons married people browse dating platforms haven't changed much since the newspaper days. Some are actively seeking affairs. Others claim they're networking or looking for platonic friendships (sure, Jan). The anonymity factor remains powerfulâthough considerably shakier in the age of facial recognition and location tracking.
What has changed is accessibility. Placing a newspaper personal ad required intentional effort: writing the ad, paying for it, setting up a P.O. Box, checking responses. Modern apps require only a smartphone and a willingness to lie. The barrier to entry dropped from "deliberate decision" to "idle Thursday evening."
The 35% statistic might be a relic of the analog era, but the behavior it revealed? That's as current as your last notification.